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Interview: How I Found Life While Grieving the Loss of My Husband

In 2017, Christine’s husband John died suddenly following what should have been a routine operation. They had been married 24 years, and their daughter was 18 at the time. Less than three years after her husband’s

death, both of Christine’s parents died, adding more layers to her grief. In this interview, she describes her intentional grieving process and the things that helped her to survive and thrive, or "surthrive" as she called it.

Christine is a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in helping clients navigate the grief journey, enabling her to share helpful insights from her professional and personal experience.  

The psychological-emotional-spiritual journey of recovery from the loss of significant family members led Christine to relocate from California to Tennessee three years ago. Christine’s relationship with Jesus Christ has been a cornerstone to her ability to thrive in what might be considered devastating circumstances. She writes in detail about her process of grief in her new book called Falling Is Part of the Journey: How I Found Life While Grieving Losses.

 

Christine Lister is licensed to do marriage and family therapy in Tennessee and California. Her practice is physically located in the central time zone in East Tennessee where she offers both in person and video sessions. Her specialties include recovery from grief and loss, especially loss of a spouse, and anxiety management from a Christ-focused approach.

 

Christine Lister's website: ListerCounseling.com.

Christine's Book - Falling Is Part of the Journey: How I Found Life While Grieving Losses

Griefshare.org is a faith-based program available online and in person at various churches.

TheraTapper™ was mentioned as a method of processing trauma associated with EMDR. Here is the link for more information on it: https://theratapperinc.com/. 

Here is more information on EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/.

 

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How to Detach from Addicts and Alcoholics

If you have addicts and alcoholics in your life, you need to learn how to detach. If you don't, you may find yourself trying to force them to get sober and losing yourself in the process. Without the ability to separate yourself from their addiction and alcoholism, you can become obsessed with fixing them. You may find yourself feeling afraid and angry and wondering why you are not capable of convincing the person you care about to make better choices. If this sounds like you, watch this video to learn how to detach from the addicts and alcoholics in your life. #detachment 
#detaching #dysfunctionalrelationship #addictionstruggles 

 

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How to Detach When You Fear Abandonment

If you fear abandonment, you probably don't know how to detach. Detaching is about separating yourself from other people's opinions, emotions, reactions, choices, blame, threats, and more. That's hard to do when you need to be attached to people to feel okay. The problem is that you will be even more dependent on what they do, feel, and think, so you desperately need to be able to separate yourself. Watch this video to learn how you can detach even though you struggle with the fear of abandonment. #fearofabandonment #detaching #detachment #dysfunctionalrelationship 

 

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Detaching from Enablers

Detaching from enablers is necessary when they are providing the means for people you care about to continue in their addiction and irresponsible behavior. It is hard enough to set your own boundaries with your loved one doing things you cannot support but when other people enable, you need to figure out how to respond to them too. Watch this video to help you to respond the right way. #addiction #detaching #irresponsible #enablers  

 

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Detaching: I'm Okay When You're Not Okay

Do you find yourself unable to detach and unable to function well in your own life when someone close to you is not okay? You don't have to live that way. This video will show you how to detach with love so you can say, "I'm okay when you're not okay." #detachment #difficultrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #beingok #healthyrelationships

 

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Setting Boundaries: Determine Who Is Responsible

Setting boundaries isn't easy because a relationship has so many variables. Because of that, it is helpful to have specific components to focus on. One of those is to determine who is responsible for what. Once you know those things, it is easier to figure out what your limits should be. Watch this video on setting boundaries to learn how to determine who is responsible. #responsibilty #settingboundaries #Christianboundaries

 

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Interview: There is Purpose In My Pain and Yours

Letitia Iona's first marriage was dysfunctional. When it was obvious that her children were negatively impacted, she knew she had to divorce. After moving to Tennessee to relocate as a single mom, she met her second husband and was excited about their new life together. Shortly after the honeymoon, he was angry, verbally abusive, and avoidant. 

 

Letitia shares her journey through divorce, single motherhood, a verbally abusive marriage, and family relocation. Through each trial, she uncovered God's deeper purpose prompting her to write the book, "There Is Purpose In Your Pain." Letitia and Karla discuss what she discovered about the purpose of pain in her life and the interviews she did for the book. Join us and you will be thinking deeply about the purpose of your pain and thrilled to discover that it isn't hard to figure out. 

 

Letitia Iona is a multifaceted professional singer, worship leader, elementary music school teacher, life coach, voice and piano instructor, and the author of “There is Purpose in Your Pain: Embracing Adversity and Finding God’s Purpose in the Midst of Life’s Challenges.” Her work aims to inspire and guide others toward Christ, offering hope and triumph amidst life’s challenges.

Letitia Iona is passionate about coaching, teaching, and supporting single mamas & women in difficult marriages. In 2021, she self-published an eBook “A Guidebook to Living a Wonder Woman Lifestyle: Written by a Single Mama for Single Mamas.” Following the sudden passing of a close friend, Letitia Iona was reminded that “life is short” and pursued her dream of relocating her family from California to Tennessee. She now resides in Clarksville with her daughter. 

Letitia's book: There is Purpose in Your Pain: Embracing Adversity and Finding God’s Purpose in the Midst of Life’s Challenges      https://www.amazon.com/There-Purpose-Your-Pain-Challenges/dp/B0DT9GW8RK

Letitia's Website:  https://letitiaionastudios.com/

Letitia's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letitia.ugwueke

#purposeinpain #toxicrelationships #findingpurpose #personalgrowth

 

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Why Do You Believe Their Lies?

When you are dealing with chronic liars, it is infuriating and hard to believe that despite the many promises to never lie again, they do. You probably ask why and how it could happen. But more importantly for you to figure out is "Why do you believe their lies?" #chronicliars #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyrelationshipsteps #toxicrelationships #boundaries #dysfunctionaldynamics

 

 

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Are You Forcing a Solution or Setting a Boundary?

What is the difference between forcing a solution where you are trying to control someone's behavior and setting a boundary where you are drawing a limit for yourself? Watch this video to get the answer to that question. #difficultrelationship #boundaries #controlling

 

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Abigail Did Not Submit to Her Husband Nabal

Abigail did not submit to her husband Nabal when he refused to help David and his men. This biblical story provides submission principles women can use to confidently say no to things that violate their consciences. #difficultrelationships #toxicrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #scripturalmisunderstandings

 

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