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Change My Relationship offers practical solutions based on biblical truths for all difficult relationships from Karla Downing, Marriage & Family Therapist.
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2 days ago
2 days ago
Most of us live with a significant amount of unfinished relationship business. We get busy. We procrastinate when something feels stressful. We have priorities that don't reflect our values. The problem is that we pay a price for not dealing with important issues that should be addressed. The worst possibility is that something happens to the person, and the opportunity to say or do something you wish you had done is no longer there. Whether it is sharing your appreciation, feelings, or love; resolving a conflict, or apologizing for things you regret; spending time with the person, or doing something that you want to do, watch this video to get a new perspective on unfinished relationship business. #unfinishedbusiness #christianrelationshipadvice #resolveconflicts
Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship
Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/x07_-1bqwXc
5 days ago
5 days ago
If you have difficult people in your life, you want them to change. Watch this video to find out what you can do to maximize that possibility.
Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship
Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Dd8LKAwT3zo
Thursday Jul 02, 2026
Thursday Jul 02, 2026
People who have learned helplessness display specific characteristics. To overcome it, there are specific things you need to do.
Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship
Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qjgbqC4AMKQ
Monday Jun 29, 2026
Monday Jun 29, 2026
Difficult relationships are complicated because the dynamics are confusing and frustrating. While there are various causes of the dysfunction, there are common things that you should do and not do. Watch this video on the dos and don'ts for people in difficult relationships so you won't make your life even harder.
Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship
Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ivCM9jcjPeo
Thursday Jun 25, 2026
Thursday Jun 25, 2026
Do you wonder when it is time to move closer to a relationship problem and when to avoid it? Many people avoid dealing with issues for numerous reasons. Others confront everything aggressively. Neither of those approaches is healthy or good.
When a problem is long-standing, and both people are avoiding bringing it up, should you? There is often anxiety over issues that are lingering, and it affects your relationship. That anxiety can spill over onto other things and further complicate them. That's one good reason to do it. Another is that resolving conflict brings people closer.
When and how to bring it up is important for you to know. If you do it the wrong way, it could backfire. If you want to grow in your ability to resolve conflict, watch this video on when to move closer to a relationship problem.
Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse. #relationshipproblems #Christianrelationshipadvice #resolveconflicts
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship
Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zif3B7-3kDA
Monday Jun 22, 2026
Monday Jun 22, 2026
Do you have prickly people in your life? If you do, then you need some help in dealing with them so they don't ruin your life. Watch this video to get the help you need.
Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship
Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/rlIlhkWeaP8
Thursday Jun 18, 2026
Thursday Jun 18, 2026
There are many myths and misunderstandings surrounding forgiveness. One of those involves scriptural truths and the consequences of sin. God's forgiveness wipes away our trespasses and the judgment we deserve. The conclusion might be that when we forgive people, we also have to let go of any consequences of their actions.
But would this be correct? It matters how you answer because it impacts the health of our relationships. When you understand what letting go of offenses entails, it will help you put questions about letting go of consequences into proper context.
Watch this Christian relationship advice video to answer the question: Does forgiveness mean letting go of consequences?
#forgiveness #consequencesofsin #christianrelationshipadvice #scripturaltruths
Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship
Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/823FvfJ2zp8
Monday Jun 15, 2026
Monday Jun 15, 2026
Zack Collie experienced a life-changing traumatic injury as a teen that presented him with the opportunity to either persevere or give up. Zack chose the first option, and as a result, he has a message that resonates with those who are facing difficult life challenges. Whether it is a traumatic injury, a debilitating illness, a painful and difficult relationship, the loss of a marriage, the loss of a job or career, or anything else, all of us have those times in our lives where we need to choose how we want to go forward.
Resilience is the secret to facing life's challenges with strength and courage. While some of us learn resilience as children, others have to learn it later in life; however, the good news is that it is never too late. In this interview, Zack uses his personal experiences as a quadriplegic to illustrate how to master the components of resilience, including perseverance, patience, gratitude, and acceptance. The interview is hopeful and helpful. You will be uplifted and inspired as you walk through Zack's injury, rehabilitation, and life's journey. You will find yourself cheering him and celebrating his journey.
Zack is a marriage and family therapist with Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Orange County, California. He loves working with teens and anyone with challenging life circumstances. He runs an online Zoom support group for those with spinal cord injuries. He is available to speak at your church, school, or organization.
Resources:
Inspired Resolutions Counseling: https://www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com/
Daily Living as a Quadriplegic YouTube Channel: https://m.youtube.com/@zackcollie1994?ra=m
Psychology Today Therapist Information:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/zackery-collie-yorba-linda-ca/1102583Ins
Instagram: zackcollie7
Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship
Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ft6D-cl-P34
Thursday Jun 11, 2026
Thursday Jun 11, 2026
Don't complain, blame or explain. These things keep you from moving forward and taking responsibility for yourself. Find out why.
Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship
Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/iuqVpdjl900
Monday Jun 08, 2026
Monday Jun 08, 2026
When comparing toxic relationships vs. healthy relationships, there are many differences. Boundaries are handled differently. Reciprocity is one-way in one and two-way in the other. One has mutual understanding; the other doesn't. Only one has mutual goodwill and cooperation.
Another difference is how ruptures and repairs are handled. All relationships have conflict and disagreements. All relationships have ups and downs, but not all know how to fix those issues and heal the wounds. Knowing how to recognize the differences can help you identify dysfunctional, toxic relationships, adjust your expectations, and plan your response. All of these strategies will help you make decisions to protect yourself now and in the future.
Toxic and healthy relationships have ruptures, but only healthy ones have repairs. Watch this video to get insight into how to identify toxic people and healthy people in the way they handle this difference.
Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.
#toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #christianrelationshipadvice #dysfunctionalrelationship #conflict #healthyrelationship
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship
Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/whZtxafdOdY