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Change My Relationship offers practical solutions based on biblical truths for all difficult relationships from Karla Downing, Marriage & Family Therapist.
Change My Relationship offers practical solutions based on biblical truths for all difficult relationships from Karla Downing, Marriage & Family Therapist.
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Wednesday Sep 03, 2025
Detaching from Accusations
Wednesday Sep 03, 2025
Wednesday Sep 03, 2025
Detaching from accusations means knowing how to not take false accusations to heart and instead letting them go. Detaching allows you to keep your reactions under control and instead choosing how to respond. Learn how to do that by watching this video. #Detachment #KeepingControl #EmotionalControl #Acusations
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Thursday Aug 28, 2025
What Not to Say to Depressed or Anxious People
Thursday Aug 28, 2025
Thursday Aug 28, 2025
Do you know what not to say to depressed or anxious people? You should if you have any contact with them in your life. There are many things people say, including Christian pat answers, that cause hurt. Find out what they are. #healthyrelationship #support #positiverelationships
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Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/6zExlxmreck

Monday Aug 25, 2025
Attachment Theory: What Is Secure Attachment?
Monday Aug 25, 2025
Monday Aug 25, 2025
You have probably heard a lot about anxious and avoidant attachment styles and how they make your relationships unhealthy. But what does it mean to be securely attached? It is what you are supposed to be when you get healthy. It is what helps your relationships to succeed, but how can you know you are getting closer to the goal if you don't know what it is?
What does it mean to be securely attached? You need to know. Watch this video to find out.
#secureattachment #healthyrelationship #anxiousattachmentstyle #attachmenttheory
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Thursday Aug 21, 2025
Refusing to Submit to Authority
Thursday Aug 21, 2025
Thursday Aug 21, 2025
Christians misunderstand what the Bible says about submitting to authority. Whether it is in marriage, the church, the family or society, learn what the Bible says about this important principle that affects all relationships. #healthyrelationship #abusiverelationships #dysfunctionalrelationship
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Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/SdjSLqgDqfM

Monday Aug 18, 2025
Should You Explain Your Boundary?
Monday Aug 18, 2025
Monday Aug 18, 2025
When you set a boundary, do you need to explain your boundary? Do you have to tell the person why you are setting that limit and justify why you came to that decision? Do you have to convince the person that you have a right to it, and do you need their permission and approval?
These are important questions for you to consider before you state your limit. Think about what you need to say, if anything at all. Watch this video to know the answer to the question: "Should you explain your boundary?" Hint: The answer is yes and no. It depends.
#setboundaries #christianboundaries
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Thursday Aug 14, 2025
Low Contact Vs No Contact
Thursday Aug 14, 2025
Thursday Aug 14, 2025
This video provides various considerations for low contact vs no contact boundaries with toxic people such as narcissists and abusers. #limitcontact #setboundaries #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyboundaries
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Monday Aug 11, 2025
Owning the Problem
Monday Aug 11, 2025
Monday Aug 11, 2025
Dysfunctional people are often defensive when you try to talk to them about their problems. An alternative is to approach them by owning the problem. Watch this video to learn how to communicate with defensive people in a way that decreases their defensiveness. #DysfunctionalRelationship #ToxicRelationships #DefensiveResponses #OwningTheProblem
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Thursday Aug 07, 2025
Change Dysfunctional Family Rules to Healthy Rules
Thursday Aug 07, 2025
Thursday Aug 07, 2025
Unhealthy families have similar dynamics regardless of what their specific problems are. They are complicated and hard to untangle. There are common unspoken rules that everyone knows they have to abide by, even though doing so ensures that the dysfunctional drama continues.
Yet there is a way to change dysfunctional family rules to healthy rules and decrease the family drama. You may not be able to do it with everyone, but you can start with one dysfunctional relationship and make healthy relationship changes by how you act and react.
If you want to change dysfunctional family rules to healthy rules, watch this video to find out how.
#dysfunctionalfamily #healthyrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #familydrama
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Monday Aug 04, 2025
How to Respond to Gaslighting
Monday Aug 04, 2025
Monday Aug 04, 2025
You cannot keep someone from gaslighting you, but you can choose how to respond to gaslighting. Learn effective responses by watching this video. #gaslighting #dysfunctionalrelationship #gaslighter #respondingtogaslighting
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Thursday Jul 31, 2025
Ask Yourself: "Why Am I Talking?"
Thursday Jul 31, 2025
Thursday Jul 31, 2025
In your dysfunctional relationships, it is important to ask yourself: "Why am I talking?" before you open your mouth. This is because most of the reasons will cause more problems for you. These complex relationships aren't easy to navigate. The dynamics are confusing. Emotions are up and down and hard to control. One of the most helpful things you can learn to do is to WAIT before you speak and ask yourself, "Why am I talking?" Watch this video to learn more about this helpful tool with the acronym "WAIT."
#dysfunctionalrelationship #christiancodependency #dysfunctionaldynamics
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