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Scapegoated By My Family for Helping

Dysfunctional families pick a scapegoat to blame for everything that goes wrong. This woman's story is an example of how a family fails to take care of their own responsibilities, expects the scapegoat to take them all on, and then blames the scapegoat for everything that doesn't work. Scapegoating is an incredibly abusive, manipulative, and crazymaking role in a dysfunctional family that typically lasts for life. If you aren't sure whether you are a scapegoat or you know you are but can't make sense of the confusing messages, listen to this podcast.

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When to Use Imperative Boundaries

Typically, boundaries in relationships are you deciding what you will do and not do and not telling others what to do. This is because you cannot control what others do. However, there are times when you must use imperative boundaries. This podcast explains when to use imperative boundaries.

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How Much Is Required to Live at Peace with Everyone? (Romans 12:18)

Romans 12:18 says, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone" (NIV). What is required to live at peace with everyone? How much should you give up and give in?  Some people believe the answer is, "Everything." Listen to this podcast to find out how that answer isn't correct.

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A Different Sermon for People in Difficult Relationships

Have you ever sat in the sanctuary listening to a sermon and felt sad and confused? Have you ever applied the advice you heard and felt that things got worse? Anytime I listen to a pastor, I ask myself if it needs to be a different sermon for people in difficult relationships. Some things are said in church that contain solid biblical advice but when applied can actually do damage. Among others, Christian boundaries are often not mentioned. Watch this video to hear a different sermon with biblical advice for Christian relationships and Christian marriages that you can apply amid dysfunction.

 

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Victim Shaming Hurts Victims Even More

Victim shaming hurts victims on top of the hurt they have already endured. It shouldn't happen, but it often does even in the church and among Christians. Watch this video to find out the many ways victim shaming happens to ensure you aren't doing it. If you have been victim-shamed, you will find this video validating.

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Weak, Healthy, or Rigid Boundaries

Do you have weak, healthy, or rigid boundaries?  Did you think that all boundaries were healthy? They can also be weak or rigid. The more you know about boundaries the healthier yours can be. Watch this video to learn about setting healthy boundaries in your relationships. 

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Christian Toxic Positivity Isn't Positive

"Christian toxic positivity" is religious positivity that harms instead of helps. It has certain aspects that make it easy to identify. It also has some unique characteristics in the church since it uses spiritual beliefs and Bible verses to prove its validity. Watch this video to learn how to identify and correct Christian toxic positivity, because it isn't positive.

 

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Is Being Sinful an Excuse for Bad Behavior?

Is being sinful an excuse for bad behavior? Dysfunctional relationships have tons of unacceptable behavior that isn't acknowledged. It's not unusual to have people manipulate you by blaming you for their behavior. Sometimes, they apologize by confessing their sinful behavior to God, but is that enough? Can you expect a good apology, too? Watch this video to understand how narcissists, abusers, and other dysfunctional people use this Scriptural misunderstanding to manipulate you.

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Detaching Simplified: Just Let Them

Detaching is one of my 10 Relationship-Changing Principles. I promise people that if they learn to detach, it will set them free from being emotionally, mentally, and relationally tied to the things people do. Detaching can seem difficult to grasp. That is why I like this way of describing detaching in a simplified but powerful way--Just let them. Instead of controlling what people do; offering your unwanted opinions; and getting upset when they don't do what you want, you just let them. Watch this video to find out how to "just let them" and experience freedom. 

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Is It Jealousy or Grief? Is It the Sin of Covetousness or Pain?

Jealousy or grief? The sin of covetousness or pain? When you feel a pang of jealousy over seeing someone who has something that you are grieving over, is it the sin of covetousness or pain? Is it normal to feel jealousy when you are grieving a loss? People often feel guilty when they experience envy when it isn't envy at all. Watch the video to find out what this scriptural misunderstanding is all about.

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