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Change My Relationship offers practical solutions based on biblical truths for all difficult relationships from Karla Downing, Marriage & Family Therapist.
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Nov 25, 2024
Nov 25, 2024
11 min
Find out how to deal with your dysfunctional family dynamics during the holidays in a healthy way that takes care of yourself!! #dysfunctionalrelationship #familydysfunction #dysfunctionalholiday #healthyholidays
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Nov 21, 2024
Nov 21, 2024
10 min
You can be empowered by choice in dysfunctional relationships. It doesn't feel that way. It feels like you are stuck and victimized, but in reality, you are never without the opportunity to take back your power and choose for yourself. Knowing this and acting on it, can change your life. Watch this video to learn how to apply this truth of empowered by choice to your dysfunctional relationship. #attitude #empoweryourself #choices #dysfunctionalrelationship
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Nov 18, 2024
Nov 18, 2024
11 min
What is reactive abuse? It is when the abuse victim snaps from the pressure, pain, punishment, control, and crazymaking and does something to the abuser that could be labeled as abusive. The victim feels bad about the reaction and the abuser blames the victim. The victim's reaction does not qualify as abuse. It is a totally different behavior. Watch this video to learn more. #crazymakers #reactiveabuse #dysfunctionalrelationship #toxicrelationship
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Nov 14, 2024
Nov 14, 2024
14 min
It isn't always easy to identify dysfunctional dynamics in a relationship. You can't diagnose people and figure out all the complex behavior that doesn't make sense. You can't always be unbiased in how you view them. There is something you can focus on: how you feel with a toxic vs a healthy person. Unhealthy people negatively impact our bodies, emotions, and spirit. We often ignore these signs but if we want insight, it is important to pay attention. Ask yourself: how do you feel with a toxic vs a healthy person. You will be surprised at what you find out. #dysfunctionalrelationship #toxicrelationship #healthyrelationships #christianrelationships
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Nov 11, 2024
Nov 11, 2024
1hr 12 min
Even though they looked perfect from the outside to everyone who knew them and held a prominent position in the community, life within their home was anything but perfect. Wendy describes her journey in an emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage where her husband weaponized scripture. Truth was mixed with untruth increasing the confusion and self-doubt. Anyone who has been gaslit, manipulated, abused. or controlled will identify with Wendy's experience of doubting herself and feeling confused enough to accept the blame and question her sanity. It took thirty-five years for Wendy to get the necessary clarity to see the dynamics for what they were and the strength to initiate a separation. #weaponizedscripture #spiritualabuse #toxicrelationship #gaslighting
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Nov 7, 2024
Nov 7, 2024
14 min
As Christians, we want to know God's will for our lives. When we make decisions, we seek guidance that we can trust. We get it from numerous sources: the Bible, pastors, things we hear, things we read, social media posts, friends, counselors, and more.
The problem is that we often become double-minded because we consider everything we hear and see as equal. God's wisdom is available for all who seek it, as James 1:5-6 says, but you will become confused if you don't hear it in the right frame of mind.
Watch this video to get clarity on your decision-making as a Christian...
#christiandecisionmaking #decisionmaking #confusedpicture #rightframeofmind
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Nov 4, 2024
Nov 4, 2024
9 min
Detaching in relationships is necessary to observe to learn the dysfunctional family dynamics you are dealing with. It is easy to be so entangled with your family that you cannot see what is going on. To be able to interact differently, you have to identify what you typically do and what the other people do. Detaching in the relationships by observing to learn is what you need to do. #detachment #detachinlove #familydysfunction
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Oct 31, 2024
Oct 31, 2024
15 min
This boundary check-up applies Romans 13:10 to your relationship by having you answer four questions. The principle of love does no harm allows you to test the purpose and effect of your boundary for all impacted parties. It is often difficult to figure out your limits but to have the confidence to set them and stick to them, you need to know they are what they need to be. This check-up will help you do that. #christianboundaries #lovedoesnoharm #dysfunctionalrelationship #boundaries
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Oct 28, 2024
Oct 28, 2024
1hr 12 min
Susan Justice is a retired nurse, author, and speaker, sharing the devastation of abortion and her healing through Jesus Christ. Susan uses her testimony to promote life-affirming solutions to persons facing unintended pregnancies and to share healing avenues with those impacted by abortion, honor her child, share the emotional/spiritual/relational “fall-out” that occurred, and educate on “Post Abortion Syndrome.” She desires to proclaim that healing is available through Jesus Christ for moms and dads.
Tragically, 18% (or nearly 1 out of every 5 pregnancies) in the U.S. end in abortion. One in four women (25%) have had an abortion by the age of 45. Fifty percent of those are repeat abortions. Sixty percent of those having abortions felt coerced. Forty- four percent of men report they did not have a voice in the abortion decision. Twenty-two million people are currently hurting after their abortion experiences. Eighty-two percent of people impacted by abortion do not know where to go for help. Medication abortion accounted for 53% of all facility-based abortions in the United States in 2020. That trend appears to be continuing.
Susan served in the past as the Coordinator of an Abortion Recovery Ministry at a Pro-Life Pregnancy Care Center. She has published articleswith Live Action, Pregnancy Help News, and other Pro-life media outlets. She has been the featured speaker on radio, at churches, banquets, and other venues. Susan is married to her best friend. They have two sons. Susan's booklet Out of Grief and Into Wholeness: Finding Healing Through Christ After Abortion (https://a.co/d/inPTAJS) is available on Amazon. (All proceeds are donated to Pro-life Pregnancy Resource Centers.)
Abortion PTSD Symptoms — Abortion is often a traumatic experience for everyone involved. (mothers, fathers, and others influencing an abortion decision) For more information on abortion PTSD symptoms:
https://ramahinternational.org/abortion-ptsd-symptoms/
https://www.focusonthefamily.com/family-qa/post-abortive-symptoms/
Resources for Post-Abortion Healing:
https://optionline.org/
http://www.internationalhelpline.org/helpline
https://h3helpline.org/help-after-abortion/abortion-helpline/
https://supportafterabortion.com/ site offers options-based healing for those desiring religious or secular, peer-led or clinical, and in-person or virtual healing.
https://www.focusonthefamily.com/get-help/post-abortive-recovery-resources/
https://abortionchangesyou.com/
https://surrenderingthesecret.com/
Bible Study Books:
Forgiven and Set Free by Linda Cochrane https://amzn.to/3YFLFxv
Healing a Father’s Heart by Linda Cochrane https://amzn.to/48fVh5d
A place to honor the dignity of your child through a Memorial Plaque:
National Memorial for the Unborn - https://www.memorialfortheunborn.org
#griefprocess #abortionrecovery #christianhealing
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Oct 24, 2024
Oct 24, 2024
11 min
Do you have Christian boundaries with chronically negative people or do they get on your nerves until you finally lose your patience? If you have these people in your life, you know they aren't easy to deal with. They are incredibly annoying and nothing you do can change them into positive people. That means the only thing you can do is to change yourself. Watch this video to learn how to set Christian boundaries with chronically negative people. #christianboundaries #negativepeople #christianrelationshipadvice #dysfunctionalrelationship
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