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Why Therapists Should Not Do Couples Therapy with an Abuser and the Victim Together

Therapists doing therapy with an abuser and the victim together are making a huge mistake that further harms the victim and decreases the chance that the abuser will change. Watch this video to learn why therapists should not do couples therapy with an abuser and the victim together. #couplestherapy #therapyforvictims

 

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Christian Codependency: When It's You or Me

Christian codependency means you are a Christian who is codependent at least partially because you hold scriptural misconceptions about what God wants you to do. For everyone who suffers from this, there will be a time if it continues, when you will ask this question: When it's you or me, and I have to choose one or the other, who should I choose? You need to know the answer if you are at that place or if you are heading there. Watch this video to find out what it is. You will be glad you did. #christiancodependency #selfcare

 

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Interview: How You Lose Your Self in a Neurodiverse Marriage

Kathleen and Elizabeth discuss how women can lose their sense of self in neurodiverse marriages, both having married men with Asperger's Syndrome. They are the founders of "My Aspie and Me," a private Facebook group for Christian women. They hear women in their group say that they no longer recognize themselves and don't know who they are. Both also experienced a loss of themselves in their marriages. 

This is a timely topic given the awareness of more women that the problems they have been dealing with in their painful and difficult marriages are Asperger's. Understanding how and why they experience this loss of self is necessary because they will need to intentionally restore it to create a better life for themselves.

My Aspie and Me private Facebook group is specifically designed for Christian women. It provides relational, marital, personal, and spiritual help for women married to neurodiverse men with Asperger's Syndrome. To join, please send a message to the group admin expressing your interest via Facebook Messenger. You will receive a message via Facebook Messenger. 

 #AspergersMarriage #NeurodiverseMarriage #ChristianMarriageHelp #ChangeMyRelationship #ChristianSelfHelp #ChristianRelationshipHelp 

 

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Therapy Goals for the Abuser

This video provides therapists and counselors with a list of goals that the abuser needs if there is any hope of change. Most of the therapy provided for abusers misses some key elements that prevent lasting change. If you are in an abusive relationship, please watch to learn what your abuser has to do. #therapygoals #personalgrowth #toxicrelationship

 

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Change Your Thoughts to Change Your Life

Did you know that you can change your thoughts to change your life? You can, and it will have an immediate effect on your feelings and actions. It isn't difficult. If you are struggling with behaviors you cannot change, emotions that are sabotaging your life, or relationships that are stuck in a rut, watch this video to find out how to change your thoughts to change your life. #thoughts #thoughtsfeelings #changeyourlife 

 

Here is the link to download the chart to change your thinking: https://karladowningresources.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/rational_thinking_chart.pdf

 

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Setting Boundaries: Know the Difference Between a Burden and a Load

Setting boundaries is difficult when you are confused about what each person is responsible for, but if you know the difference between a burden and a load in Galatians 6:2-5, it gives you a helpful guideline. Because limits are different for each person and all individual factors have to be taken into consideration, it helps to have an objective test. If you struggle with setting Christian boundaries, watch this video to know the difference between a burden and a load. #christianboundaries #settingboundaries #boundaries

Here is the link to the Boundaries Zoom Study or to buy the study to do on your own: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/boundaries-setting-healthy-relationships-limits-zoom-study/

 

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Interview: How I Found Life While Grieving the Loss of My Husband

In 2017, Christine’s husband John died suddenly following what should have been a routine operation. They had been married 24 years, and their daughter was 18 at the time. Less than three years after her husband’s

death, both of Christine’s parents died, adding more layers to her grief. In this interview, she describes her intentional grieving process and the things that helped her to survive and thrive, or "surthrive" as she called it.

Christine is a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in helping clients navigate the grief journey, enabling her to share helpful insights from her professional and personal experience.  

The psychological-emotional-spiritual journey of recovery from the loss of significant family members led Christine to relocate from California to Tennessee three years ago. Christine’s relationship with Jesus Christ has been a cornerstone to her ability to thrive in what might be considered devastating circumstances. She writes in detail about her process of grief in her new book called Falling Is Part of the Journey: How I Found Life While Grieving Losses.

 

Christine Lister is licensed to do marriage and family therapy in Tennessee and California. Her practice is physically located in the central time zone in East Tennessee where she offers both in person and video sessions. Her specialties include recovery from grief and loss, especially loss of a spouse, and anxiety management from a Christ-focused approach.

 

Christine Lister's website: ListerCounseling.com.

Christine's Book - Falling Is Part of the Journey: How I Found Life While Grieving Losses

Griefshare.org is a faith-based program available online and in person at various churches.

TheraTapper™ was mentioned as a method of processing trauma associated with EMDR. Here is the link for more information on it: https://theratapperinc.com/. 

Here is more information on EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/.

 

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How to Detach from Addicts and Alcoholics

If you have addicts and alcoholics in your life, you need to learn how to detach. If you don't, you may find yourself trying to force them to get sober and losing yourself in the process. Without the ability to separate yourself from their addiction and alcoholism, you can become obsessed with fixing them. You may find yourself feeling afraid and angry and wondering why you are not capable of convincing the person you care about to make better choices. If this sounds like you, watch this video to learn how to detach from the addicts and alcoholics in your life. #detachment 
#detaching #dysfunctionalrelationship #addictionstruggles 

 

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How to Detach When You Fear Abandonment

If you fear abandonment, you probably don't know how to detach. Detaching is about separating yourself from other people's opinions, emotions, reactions, choices, blame, threats, and more. That's hard to do when you need to be attached to people to feel okay. The problem is that you will be even more dependent on what they do, feel, and think, so you desperately need to be able to separate yourself. Watch this video to learn how you can detach even though you struggle with the fear of abandonment. #fearofabandonment #detaching #detachment #dysfunctionalrelationship 

 

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Detaching from Enablers

Detaching from enablers is necessary when they are providing the means for people you care about to continue in their addiction and irresponsible behavior. It is hard enough to set your own boundaries with your loved one doing things you cannot support but when other people enable, you need to figure out how to respond to them too. Watch this video to help you to respond the right way. #addiction #detaching #irresponsible #enablers  

 

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