Change My Relationship

Interview: Hope for Your Neurodiverse Marriage: Practical Skills to Change Your Interactions

Barbara Grant joins Karla to share her personal experience in a neurodiverse marriage. They discuss typical struggles couples have that lead to disconnection and stress. Barbara shares practical skills she teaches couples and individuals that help improve their interactions.  

 

Barbara Grant is a dedicated neurodiverse couples coach with personal and professional expertise in navigating the unique dynamics of neurodiverse relationships. She holds a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and is a Certified Autism Specialist and Neurodiverse Couples Coach. Barbara’s coaching is grounded in her innovative Roadmap to Hope & Healing© -- a research-based, results-driven approach inspired by her own experiences within neurodiverse marriage and family life. Passionate about helping individuals and couples heal, grow, and determine the sustainability of their relationships, Barbara brings empathy and insight to her work. She has been featured on popular podcasts such as Neurodiverse Love, Your Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, and The Neurodiverse Christian Couples Podcast. Additionally, she is the editor and a contributing author of "Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism, and Faith." Barbara currently cohosts The Neurodiverse Couples “Coaches’ Corner” Podcast.

 

Barbara Grant's Website and contact: https://bg-hc.com/

 

Purchase Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism, and Faith by Rev. Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes, Rev. Dan Holmes, et al. on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3IAWzPF

Is there Cross-Over of Porn Use/Sex Addiction in Autistic Men with Dr. Janice Caudill

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/is-there-cross-over-of-porn-use-sex-addiction-in/id1579715646?i=1000720576734

Porn & Sex Addiction, Sexuality & Autism with Candice Christiansen

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/porn-sex-addiction-sexuality-autism-with-candice/id1579715646?i=1000721491068

What Even is Healthy Christian Masculinity & Sexuality? with Dr. Andrew Bauman

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-even-is-healthy-christian-masculinity-sexuality/id1579715646?i=1000722489643

Want TOTAL Intimacy in Your NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage?

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/want-total-intimacy-in-your-neurodiverse-christian/id1579715646?i=1000723423035

 

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Christian Recovery: Powerlessness Is Not an Excuse to Drink - Or Do Anything Else

In Step One of the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, alcoholics admit that they are powerless over alcohol.  Some people misunderstand this to mean that they have no accountability for their drinking or anything else destructive and don't have to take any responsibility. 

This isn't what is meant by powerlessness. Watch this video to learn about what powerlessness is and is not. It could help you with your own recovery or help you to have reasonable expectations for the alcoholic or addict in your life.  #ChristianRecovery #TwelveSteps  #StepOne #AlcoholicsAnonymous  #Powerlessness

 

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Spiritualizing Hurts Hurting People

Spiritualizing hurts hurting people by not responding to the real needs of the person by minimizing their pain and the situation. Watch this video to understand what spiritualizing is and why it hurts. #spiritualizing #hurtingpeople #respondingtoneeds

 

 

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Abusive Relationships: Is Emotional Neglect Abuse?

Abusive relationships contain many types of harmful treatment. Some overt and some covert. Some obvious and some hidden. Some are easy to identify, and some are not so easy to identify. 

We know emotional abuse is harmful, but is emotional neglect abuse? This matters when you are listening to an abuse victim, when you are in a toxic relationship, when you are assessing your behavior, and when you are evaluating the impact of dysfunction on your children.

Watch this video to find out when emotional neglect is abuse.

 

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Interview: Answers to the Hard Questions on How to Pray for Your Wounded Child

Virginia shares the hearts of those who love their wounded children and the prayers that arise from their painful struggles in this podcast. She answers the hard questions: What about the person who has prayed and prayed and hasn't gotten an answer? What are you praying for when you ask God to heal? Is it instant healing or something else? Can you contend with God? Can you share your emotions with Him? Parents with wounded children have struggled with these questions and more, and they will find comfort with this honest and practical discussion.

 

Virginia Wells is the author of "Praying for a Wounded Child: Encouragement and Prayers for You and the Child You Love." She combined her faith as a hospital chaplain, her education and experience as a mental health counselor working with traumatized children, and her personal heart cries as an adoptive mother to wounded children from war-torn countries or minority backgrounds. 

 

Her devotional is both practical and deeply spiritual. It serves as both a soul cry and a battle plan, written for the parent whose heart breaks daily--who feels unseen, unprepared, or out of strength, yet still refuses to give up. Wells speaks directly to those walking a difficult parenting path, offering the encouragement and tools they need to keep going when hope feels distant. She equips parents with spiritual and emotional tools to help them stand in the gap for their children, while also tending to their own healing and hope.

 

You can find her book on Amazon: Praying for a Wounded Child: Encouragement and Prayers for You and the Child You Love  https://amzn.to/3HMKqa9

 

Website: virginiawellsauthor.com

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Email: wellsvirginia1972@gmail.com

 

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Toxic Relationships: Play the Movie Forward

Toxic relationships have complicated dynamics that are hard to figure out. It isn't unusual to be confused about the specific problems you are dealing with. Emotions are intense. Conflict isn't resolved. People don't listen and seek to understand when you voice your concerns and needs. 

Reactivity is high in toxic relationships. It is easy to do things you regret. One of the best things you can do is to practice stopping yourself before you react.

One of the easiest ways to do that in toxic relationships is to play the movie forward. Watch this video to find out how and why to do this.  You'll be glad you did.

 

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Abusive Relationships: Are You Trauma Bonded?

Abusive relationships shouldn't be hard to leave, but they are. If you've been in one, you know that it is because you are emotionally and relationally entangled. You struggle with knowing what is true and question yourself because you believe the abuser's accusations that blame you for the problems.  

Understanding what a trauma bond is and why it keeps you stuck will help you identify why you are struggling. It will also pinpoint what you need to do to get healthier and stronger to break the attachment that some have referred to as an addiction.

Watch this video to answer the question: What is a trauma bond in your abusive relationship?

 

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Setting Boundaries: From Chaos to Clarity

When setting boundaries, how do you go from chaos to clarity? If you've been in a relationship with dysfunctional dynamics, you know what it is to be confused, frustrated, overwhelmed, and uncertain. You know how you question yourself and wonder if your thoughts, feelings, actions, and perceptions are accurate. 

Is it possible to go from there to a place where you are clear on what is happening and what you need to do? Is it possible to know your boundaries and have the courage to follow through? 

The answer is "Yes." Watch this video on "Setting Boundaries: From Chaos to Clarity" to learn how.

 

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Detaching from Accusations

Detaching from accusations means knowing how to not take false accusations to heart and instead letting them go. Detaching allows you to keep your reactions under control and instead choosing how to respond. Learn how to do that by watching this video. #Detachment #KeepingControl #EmotionalControl #Acusations

 

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What Not to Say to Depressed or Anxious People

Do you know what not to say to depressed or anxious people? You should if you have any contact with them in your life. There are many things people say, including Christian pat answers, that cause hurt. Find out what they are. #healthyrelationship #support #positiverelationships

 

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