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Detaching Simplified: Just Let Them

Detaching is one of my 10 Relationship-Changing Principles. I promise people that if they learn to detach, it will set them free from being emotionally, mentally, and relationally tied to the things people do. Detaching can seem difficult to grasp. That is why I like this way of describing detaching in a simplified but powerful way--Just let them. Instead of controlling what people do; offering your unwanted opinions; and getting upset when they don't do what you want, you just let them. Watch this video to find out how to "just let them" and experience freedom. 

#Detaching #ToxicRelationships 

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Is It Jealousy or Grief? Is It the Sin of Covetousness or Pain?

Jealousy or grief? The sin of covetousness or pain? When you feel a pang of jealousy over seeing someone who has something that you are grieving over, is it the sin of covetousness or pain? Is it normal to feel jealousy when you are grieving a loss? People often feel guilty when they experience envy when it isn't envy at all. Watch the video to find out what this scriptural misunderstanding is all about.

#grief #scripturalwisdom 

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A Reason Is Not an Excuse for Bad Behavior

A reason is not an excuse for bad behavior. When a person acts out or mistreats you, it is typical to ask why the person did it. You often search for a cause and then the confusion comes in and makes you wonder if it is okay to expect better behavior or set boundaries with consequences. This video explains why having a reason for bad behavior isn't an excuse for bad behavior.

#Boundaries #ChristianBoundaries #ToxicRelationship

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Boundaries for Me but Not for Thee

Boundaries for me but not for thee. This Christian relationship advice video exposes the hypocrisy of people who tell you that you cannot have boundaries when they have them for themselves. Becoming clear about this double standard will strengthen your resolve to stand up for yourself and set healthy boundaries in your dysfunctional relationships. Don't let toxic people tell you that you cannot set boundaries when they do. Christians can and should have boundaries in their relationships.

#Boundaries #HealthyBoundaries #ChristianBoundaries

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My Wife’s Detaching in Love Led to My Sexual Addiction Recovery

Matthew Riley, Development Director of Be Broken Ministries, offers a personal and engaging account of his recovery from sexual addiction as a result of his wife's detaching in love, as well as setting boundaries. Matthew is a former pastor and international worker. He has been married for 18 years to his wife Katherine and has four children ages 10 - 15 years old.  Be Broken helps individuals and families move from sexual brokenness to wholeness in Christ. Through workshops, small groups, online courses, and partner resources, they help men overcome pornography addiction and stop other unwanted sexual behaviors. They also help wives recover from betrayal trauma, as well as families walk in God's design for sexuality. #SexualAddictionRecovery #BoundariesInMarriage #HelpForWivesofSexAddicts #ChristianMarriageHelp #DetachingInLove #ChangeMyRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #SelfHelp  #SelfCare  #ChristianRelationships 

The Why and How of Boundaries in Marriages Recovering from Sexual Betrayal

Why are boundaries necessary for marriage restoration after sexual betrayal? And how does a couple navigate establishing and enforcing such boundaries in a redemptive way?

Jonathan Daugherty of Be Broken Ministries interviews Karla Downing on Pure Sex Radio to answer these important questions. In this conversation, Karla defines what boundaries are, why they are necessary to rebuild a broken marriage, how they are enforced, various pitfalls to boundary-setting and boundary-keeping, and why the real “goal” is restoration.  #BoundariesInMarriage #ChristianMarriageHelp #DetachingInLove #ChangeMyRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #SelfHelp  #SelfCare  #ChristianRelationships 

Helping Wives Detach with Love in a Difficult Marriage

This podcast is an interview by Jonathan Daugherty of Karla Downing on the important topic of how wives can detach with love in marriages to sex addicts or any other problem. Detachment sets wives free by helping them to focus on their own feelings, needs, thoughts, opinions, and perceptions while allowing their husbands to focus on theirs. This principle of detaching in love is absolutely necessary to overcome codependent enmeshment. Click for more information on Pure Sex Radio podcast and Be Broken Ministries  for help for both men with sexual addictions and their wives.  #ChristianMarriageHelp #DetachingInLove #ChangeMyRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #SelfHelp  #SelfCare  #ChristianRelationships 

Help for Women in Complex Marriages

Dr. Stephanie Holmes and Rev. Dan Holmes interviewed your host, Karla Downing, on their NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast on the topic of "Help for Women in Complex Marriages." Much of the conversation centered around the raising of children in complex marriages. While the focus is on neurodiverse couples, the principles and tools are applicable to any dysfunctional marriage where the children are affected. Here is the link to Dan and Stephanie Holmes' NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast:  https://www.spreaker.com/show/neurodiverse-christian-couples

I‘m an Asperger Husband

Cooper describes how being a husband with Asperger's impacts his marriage and how he and his wife make adjustments for their marriage to work. Cooper is the husband of Kathleen, previously interviewed in "Married to Asperger's." Cooper is a part of the private Facebook group "Aspie Men for God." Kathleen is a co-host of the private Facebook group "My Aspie and Me" for the spouses of Asperger's mates.   

 #AspergersMarriage #NeurodiverseMarriage #ChristianMarriageHelp #ChangeMyRelationship #ChristianSelfHelp #ChristianRelationships 

I Was a Covert Emotional Abuser

Bucky was a covert emotional abuser toward his wife Annette, until he was forced to face the truth by a counselor who confronted him with what he was doing. Bucky describes the next three years as "hard work" when during a three-year separation from Annette he had to work on changing his abusive patterns. Annette founded The Mend Project to educate, equip, and restore those who are in abusive relationships and to train first-responders (https://themendproject.com).