Change My Relationship

The Why and How of Boundaries in Marriages Recovering from Sexual Betrayal

Why are boundaries necessary for marriage restoration after sexual betrayal? And how does a couple navigate establishing and enforcing such boundaries in a redemptive way?

Jonathan Daugherty of Be Broken Ministries interviews Karla Downing on Pure Sex Radio to answer these important questions. In this conversation, Karla defines what boundaries are, why they are necessary to rebuild a broken marriage, how they are enforced, various pitfalls to boundary-setting and boundary-keeping, and why the real “goal” is restoration.  #BoundariesInMarriage #ChristianMarriageHelp #DetachingInLove #ChangeMyRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #SelfHelp  #SelfCare  #ChristianRelationships 

Helping Wives Detach with Love in a Difficult Marriage

This podcast is an interview by Jonathan Daugherty of Karla Downing on the important topic of how wives can detach with love in marriages to sex addicts or any other problem. Detachment sets wives free by helping them to focus on their own feelings, needs, thoughts, opinions, and perceptions while allowing their husbands to focus on theirs. This principle of detaching in love is absolutely necessary to overcome codependent enmeshment. Click for more information on Pure Sex Radio podcast and Be Broken Ministries  for help for both men with sexual addictions and their wives.  #ChristianMarriageHelp #DetachingInLove #ChangeMyRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #SelfHelp  #SelfCare  #ChristianRelationships 

Help for Women in Complex Marriages

Dr. Stephanie Holmes and Rev. Dan Holmes interviewed your host, Karla Downing, on their NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast on the topic of "Help for Women in Complex Marriages." Much of the conversation centered around the raising of children in complex marriages. While the focus is on neurodiverse couples, the principles and tools are applicable to any dysfunctional marriage where the children are affected. Here is the link to Dan and Stephanie Holmes' NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast:  https://www.spreaker.com/show/neurodiverse-christian-couples

I‘m an Asperger Husband

Cooper describes how being a husband with Aspergers impacts his marriage and how he and his wife make adjustments for their marriage to work. Cooper is the husband of Kathleen previously interviewed in "Married to Aspergers." Cooper is a part of the private Facebook group "Aspie Men for God." Kathleen is a co-host of the private Facebook group "My Aspie and Me" for the spouses of Asperger mates.    

I Was a Covert Emotional Abuser

Bucky was a covert emotional abuser toward his wife Annette, until he was forced to face the truth by a counselor who confronted him with what he was doing. Bucky describes the next three years as "hard work" when during a three-year separation from Annette he had to work on changing his abusive patterns. Annette founded The Mend Project to educate, equip, and restore those who are in abusive relationships and to train first-responders (https://themendproject.com).

My Journey Through Double Abuse

Annette Oltmans describes her marriage to a covert emotionally abusive man and the subsequent abuse by her friends in a couples' group when they refused to believe her and instead ostracized her and embraced her husband. Annette was able to set boundaries in her marriage and her husband got support and is no longer abusive. She has never received an apology or acknowledgement from her support group. 

Annette is the founder of The Mend Project which seeks to educate, equip, and restore all those impacted by Original and Double Abuse®. They train first responders, churches, and organizations to recognize abuse. The website is https://themendproject.com/.

 

Living with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Keith Ramachandran has severe obsessive-compulsive disorder. Listen to him tell his story of how he has learned to thrive in his life and marriage. Keith and Erin Ramachandran's website is https://mentalhealthstrong.com. Erin's book about her journey to a healthy relationship with Keith is "Mental Health Strong: A Christian's Guide to Walking Resiliently alongside Your Spouse with a Mental Health Condition." 

Married to a Sex Addict

Heather tells her story of being married to a sex addict and minimizing and denying the signs until discovering proof that she could no longer ignore. Listen to how she tried to be satisfied in a marriage without intimacy by adjusting her expectations and focusing on other things.     

Scriptural Truths for Women in Difficult Marriages

Anne Nelson of Fully Thriving interviews Karla Downing, M.A., MFT, founder of Change My Relationship on "Scriptural Truths for Women in Difficult Marriages." Karla's passion is to set Christians free by giving them a correct understanding of what the Bible teaches for difficult relationships, as well as practical truths to make their lives and relationships better. 

Kidnapped by My Mother at Four

Dawn was kidnapped by her mother at four years old from her father who was raising her.  Hear the story of how she grew up being told by her mother that her father abandoned her and how she and her father reunited over forty years later. This is just one of many stories of parental alienation that rips families apart.