Change My Relationship

In this interview, Judi Noble talks about her own physically and verbally abusive marriage during the 1960s. She compares how the church and society responded to abuse victims in the sixties with today, looking at whether there has been progress.

Judi relays the story about how God led her to found Eagle's Wings Ministry and how her ex-husband, Jim, her prior abuser, ended up sharing her passion for reaching out to abuse victims and their abusers. 
 
This interview demonstrates how God uses the things that happen to us for his glory and to encourage others. God has been faithful through the thirty years Judi has held firm to her calling. He is honoring Judi's vision in ways today that clearly show his promise to grow the seeds we plant.
 
The mission of Eagle's Wings Ministry is to bring hope and healing to survivors of domestic violence. They advocate, educate, and empower women and men to discover their true value and worth to break the cycle of abuse in their families. They provide physical, emotional, and spiritual support to those seeking freedom and restoration. Eagle's Wings also desires to train churches and their staff to identify abuse victims and respond to them in a way that offers support rather than harm. 
#lovedoesnoharm #romans13:10 #Christianmarriageadvice #Christianrelationshipadvice #domesticviolencesurvivors #abusiverelationships #abusivemarriage #emotionalabuse #churchabuse 
 
Resources Mentioned in the Podcast
 
Eagle's Wings Ministry: https://www.eagleswings-ministries.com/
 
Domestic Abuse Intervention Project (DAIP) wheels regarding abuse and healthy power and control: https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/faqs-about-the-wheels/
 
"The Abusers' Love vs. Jesus' Love" Talk on YouTube: https://youtu.be/L8z24rPFN7k
 
"Love Does No Harm" book on Amazon (Paid Link):  https://amzn.to/4iyqKXq

 

 

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Do you have any neat freaks in your life? If you do, you know that they can drive your crazy with their perfectionist demands. Watch this video to get some ideas of how to deal with them in a way that works.

 

Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.

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If you've been in unhealthy relationships, you've probably wondered why some people can't self-evaluate. They won't own what they've done. They won't listen to your concerns. They don't care if you are upset or hurt. This lack of self-awareness is not only frustrating but perplexing to healthy people, because when you are willing to look at yourself, you can't figure out why others aren't. Understanding why unhealthy people do what they do makes dealing with them easier. It changes the way you respond to their lack of insight. It helps you let go of useless attempts to get them to own their actions and take responsibility for them. It shifts your focus onto the things you can control. Watch this video to find out why unhealthy people can't self-evaluate. You will be glad you did because information is empowering. #selfevaluation #selfawareness #dysfunctional #unhealthyrelationships #toxicrelationships #unhealthypeople #christianrelationshipadvice

Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.

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Confronting difficult people requires wisdom. Watch this video to learn how to plan your strategy to confront the difficult people in your life.

Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.

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It is important that as a Christian you understand scriptural truths. One of these is the teaching around the question: "Has God promised you won't get more than you can bear?"

You share your burdens with a fellow Christian, pastor, or ministry leader, and you are told, "God won't give you more than you can bear." You know what they mean because you have heard it before. So what you tell yourself is: "Stop complaining, God gave it to you and expects you to be able to handle it. What's wrong with you?"

But wait a minute. Could it be that this Bible verse is frequently used incorrectly? Could it be saying something completely different? 

Watch this video to learn the scriptural truth about whether 1 Corinthians 10:13 means that God has promised you won't get more than you can bear. 

Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.
#scripturaltruth #godspromises #temptations #trialsandtribulations #1Corinthains13:10 #scripturalmisunderstandings #scripturaltruths #christianrelationshipadvice 

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Journaling is helpful when you need clarity on a relationship problem, a boundary you need to set, on who is to blame, on the dynamics, and more. Watch this video to learn how to journal to get clarity on what is going on and what you should do next in your difficult relationships.

Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.   

 

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If you have a difficult daughter-in-law, you are desperate to fix things so you have a better relationship with your son and grandchildren. This video gives you realistic ideas to navigate this touchy relationship. #daughter-in-law #dysfunctionalrelationship #narcissist #grandchildren #grandchild

 

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All-or-nothing thinking causes problems in your life and relationships whether it is your or someone else's. It is just one of many cognitive distortions that is pervasive in dysfunctional relationships in families where communication skills and conflict resolution skills are generally lacking. 

This video gives you examples of this black-and-white thinking and alternative ways to communicate. It is a simple change that has a huge impact.         

#all-or-nothing thinking #cognitivedistortion #dysfunctionalfamilies #communicationskills #conflictresolution #christianrelationshipadvice 

Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.

 

Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/
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I, Karla Downing, am frequently asked why I stayed in my dysfunctional, toxic marriage. The answer is complex and multi-layered, as it is for anyone who has been in a difficult marriage. 

This honest, heartfelt exposé on why I have stayed will help you analyze why you have stayed and can even help you understand why you finally left. If you are a Christian in a difficult marriage, you will recognize the confusion over Scripture and misguided teachings. It will also model how you can give yourself grace and compassion rather than judgment and condemnation.  

If you are in a dysfunctional, toxic marriage or relationship, or have been in one and need understanding as to what is going on and why you are doing what you have been doing, this video will help you. If you know people in toxic relationships and can't understand why they stay, it will also give you empathy and compassion.  

Watch to learn why I stayed in my dysfunctional, toxic marriage. This candid personal analysis from Karla Downing will change your understanding of difficult marriage struggles.

  #dysfunctionalmarriage #toxicrelationship #toxicmarriage #christianmarriageadvice #KarlaDowning

 

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Healthy friendship has specific components. Evaluate your friendships by learning what they are.

 

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