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Be Curious About the Other Person

It isn't easy to listen to someone saying things you disagree with. It is hard to hear someone is upset with you, and even harder to not receive it as an attack and defend yourself. It takes self-restraint to focus on what is being said when your emotions are out of control.  Defensiveness and reactivity are primary reasons that conflict escalates and isn't resolved. There is an approach that can make it easier for you to listen, and that is to be curious about the other person. Watch this video to find out how to do that and why it works. #reactivity #becurious #listen 

 

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Be Curious About Yourself

People are often out of touch with what is going on with themselves. This leads to problems in their lives and relationships. Whether it is feeling an emotion, problem-solving a situation, making a decision, or resolving a conflict, it helps to be self-aware. Not knowing what and why you are acting and reacting the way you are means you lack valuable insight. 

The alternative is to be curious about yourself. Watch this video to find out how you can do that to improve your life and relationships... 
#selfawareness #becurious   

 

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Can You Lose God's Forgiveness for Unforgiveness?

Dysfunctional people do all kinds of hurtful things and rarely ask for forgiveness. It is common to struggle with forgiveness because there are so many hurtful things done. The Bible tells us that God doesn't forgive us when we don't forgive our offenders, but does this really mean you aren't forgiven? #forgiveness #boundaries #toxicrelationships #dysfunctionalrelationship #emotionalhealing 

 

 

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Our Son's Eight-Year Journey Through Heroin Addiction

Greg and Edie describe their son's eight-year journey through heroin addiction which impacts the family in profound ways. They describe how it disrupted their lives and how they grappled with the difficult and scary decisions of how much to help. They share the tools they learned that gave them wisdom, health, and peace. 

 

According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, 40.3 million people in the United States had a substance abuse disorder in 2020. This means that at least two family members were impacted for a minimum of 80.6 million people whose lives were disrupted. It is more likely a minimum of four people making it a total of 161.2 million people who have been affected by a family member's drug use. Of those 40.3 million people with substance use disorder, only 6.5 percent received treatment.

 

Their son got clean after many rehabs and 127 changes in where he lived over eight years after finally hitting his bottom. If you have a loved one who is imprisoned by addiction, listen to this story. It will give you experience, strength, and hope for your journey. #addictionrecovery #boundaries #truthinlove #toxicrelationships

 

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What Is Double Abuse®?

Abuse victims often experience a lack of support and mistreatment when they describe what is happening to them. This lack of support is labeled as "Double Abuse" by Annette Oltmans of The Mend Project.  Find out what Double Abuse is and why it is harmful to the victim. #dysfunctionalrelationship #abusevictims #doubleabuse #toxicrelationshiprecovery 

 

 

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Married to a Sex Addict

Heather tells her story of being married to a sex addict and minimizing and denying the signs until discovering proof that she could no longer ignore. Listen to how she tried to be satisfied in a marriage without intimacy by adjusting her expectations and focusing on other things.     #dysfunctionalrelationship #podcast #sexaddiction #toxicrelationships 

 

 

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Twelve Step Recovery: Working Steps One, Two and Three

Twelve Step recovery includes working Steps One, Two and Three where you admit powerlessness, come to believe God will restore you to sanity and surrender your will and life to God. When life gets overwhelming, you can work Steps One, Two and Three together to get yourself back on track. See how it is done in this video. #dysfunctionalrelationship #complexrelationships #recoveryjourney 

 

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Reparative Moves to Reconnect After Conflict

Toxic relationships with dysfunctional dynamics don't use reparative moves to reconnect after conflict. As a result, they are perpetually disconnected. There are small things that can be done that will move the parties toward each other and increase the possibility that they can open a discussion. Find out what these things are by watching the video.#reparativemoves #openingdiscussion #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyrelationshipsteps

 

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Navigating His Bipolar Disorder in Our Marriage Part 2

John and Ann describe how they navigated his Bipolar Disorder in their marriage. Bipolar disorder is also referred to as manic-depressive disorder because it is characterized by extreme shifts in mood with highs and lows that impact a person's ability to function normally. An estimated 2.8 percent of the population has bipolar disorder. In Part 2, Ann describes the heavy weight of caring for her husband and the family without his help. After finding support, she learned how to care for herself by setting boundaries. John then had to make hard choices about managing his illness. Their journey from almost divorcing to renewing their vows offers couples hope in successfully navigating mental illness together.  #bipolarinmarriage #healthyrelationships #difficultmarriage

 

Mental Health Strong  https://mentalhealthstrong.com/

 

National Alliance on Mental Illness  (NAMI)  https://www.nami.org

 

Re|engage study for strengthening marriages. https://www.reengage.org/

 

"10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages" by Karla Downing https://a.co/d/eSSsUlQ

 

Karla Downing's classes  https://www.changemyrelationship.com/current-and-upcoming-classes/

 

 

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Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics: The Karpman Triangle

Triangulation or stepping into a relationship conflict between two people is one of many dysfunctional dynamics. Find out what the Karpman Triangle is and how it sheds light on the pros and cons of triangulating. #karpmantriangle #complexrelationships #relationshipconflict 

 

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